
"Step through the doorway into something bigger, better."
- David Whyte

Kristina Posthuma
Counsellor, B.Sc, B.Couns, MNZCCA
Offering Individuals and Couples Counselling
​Based in West Melton, Christchurch
Meet Kristina
What I Offer
Located in West Melton in the Selwyn District, my counselling room is found on our semi-rural property on Weedons Ross Road.
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In my work I enjoy providing a welcoming and safe space where you can be listened to really well, and feel heard and can start to identify challenges or areas of distress in life.
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Maybe you are not able to change the circumstances of your life, but you might be able to find a way to make sense of these things in ways that help you understand yourself better, and to find compassion for yourself and others in the process.
In my experience it means existing draining old patterns are replaced with lighter, more compassionate ones, and seeing this change brings me particular joy.​
About Me
​My understanding of people began in a large family and relationships of all varieties continue to be an interest and passion.
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My professional career was inspired by a helpful experience with a counsellor, at a crucial point in my life.
I had earlier studied Zoology, and as part of that my first encounter with Attachment theory. When the opportunity to train as a counsellor came up, I was excited to discover that Attachment Theory continues to be a helpful ‘lens’ through which to explore how relationships impact us as humans.
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My Counselling Approach
A very simple way of describing attachment is that humans are wired to need connection with other humans. In our relationships we feel safe when we are strongly connected to another, and attachment is the way in which this connection is formed.
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I specialise in couples and relationship counselling, offering a safe and non-blaming space in which relationship healing can happen, and a couple can start to create healthier ways of communicating.
In my experience couples can feel stuck, and begin to lose hope that anything can change. With an attachment based focus it is possible to regain the hope for your relationship, as you discover that there are always really good reasons for how you cope with the distress that turns up when you emotionally ‘lose’ each other.
I help couples find their way back to each other as they learn how to communicate what is really going on in those moments.
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For those who like to do research it might be helpful to know that my counselling work is informed by Person Centred therapy, Narrative therapy, and Internal Family Systems therapy. In my work with couples I have been trained to use Emotionally Focused Couples therapy.
Blue Door Counselling
Qualified and professionally registered counsellor
offering individual and couples counselling sessions
from West Melton, Christchurch